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HEY BESTIE: Will getting circumcised make sex more pleasurable?

Updated: Mar 13

My girlfriend has asked me to get circumcised, she says she believes she’ll enjoy sexual activity with me more and believes that it’ll create better pleasure for me, too. Is this a common request that women have for men?

HEY BESTIE: Will getting circumcised make sex more pleasurable?

Thank you for being so honest with your question. Those of you who follow along on this column know that I always encourage open communication and understanding between partners, especially when it comes to sexual desires and preferences. It’s important to approach this topic in a sex-positive manner, recognizing that people have diverse preferences and desires when it comes to intimacy.

Having said that, the request for circumcision is not necessarily a common one among women for their male partners. Everyone’s sexual preferences and experiences are unique, and what one person may desire may differ from another. It is known that some women may prefer circumcised partners, while others prefer uncircumcised partners and others may not have any preference at all. It’s essential to remember that sexual satisfaction and pleasure can be influenced by a combination of factors, including emotional connection, communication, and exploring each other’s desires.

If your girlfriend has expressed this preference, it’s important to have an open and honest conversation with her about her reasons and feelings. Equally important is to share your thoughts and feelings about the request. Communication is the foundation of a healthy sexual relationship, and discussing this topic together can lead to a better understanding of each other’s perspectives.

When considering any changes to your body, it’s essential to make an informed decision. If you are contemplating circumcision, I encourage you to do thorough research, consult with a medical professional, and take the time to reflect on how it aligns with your own desires and beliefs about your body.

If, as a man, you were experiencing pain and discomfort during sexual activity with your partner, then I would highly recommend seeing a doctor who has specialised knowledge in sexual health. There’s a higher probability that you might be suffering from something called ‘Phimosis’. Phimosis is a condition in which the foreskin of the penis is too tight and cannot be pulled back over the head of the penis (glans). It can occur in infants, young boys, and adult males.

In infants and young boys, phimosis is relatively common and often resolves naturally as they grow older. In such cases, medical professionals may recommend gentle stretching exercises or topical steroid creams to help loosen the foreskin gradually. These methods can be successful in many cases, avoiding the need for circumcision.

In adult males, if phimosis is causing problems such as pain during erections or difficulty with hygiene, conservative treatments like topical steroid creams and stretching exercises can still be attempted. However, if these methods do not work or if there are recurrent issues, circumcision might be considered as a potential solution. Circumcision involves the surgical removal of the foreskin, which can resolve the phimosis and its associated problems.

It’s important to note that circumcision is a personal decision, and not everyone with phimosis may need or choose to undergo the procedure. The best approach is to consult with medical professionals. After all, both partners should feel comfortable and respected in their sexual relationship. Mutual consent and understanding are key to creating a fulfilling and enjoyable sexual experience for both individuals involved.

Remember that no one should feel pressured to alter their body solely to meet someone else’s expectations. The most important aspect of any sexual relationship is a caring and loving connection between partners.

Your bestie,

Amanda xx

Published July22, 2023 on

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