Do you have a question you’ve been too afraid to ask about your relationship or sex life?
From whether to worry about your other half’s ‘alone time’, to what to do if your partner wants a threesome to how to achieve an orgasm – sexologist and relationship coach Amanda Lambros will give you the frank and thorough answers to help you sleep at night.
WARNING: Graphic content below.
Hey Bestie: Is there really such a thing as a G-spot and if so, what does it do and what are the best positions to find it?
Traditionally known as the Grafenberg Spot, the G-Spot was a concept created by Dr Beverly Whipple and her team way back in the ‘80s. Regardless of what you read, there are believers and those who think it’s pure fiction.
As a sexologist, this is what I like to call the sweet spot.
For the women who have felt the pleasures of it, here’s what it is: It’s the area where the clitoris, urethra and vagina all meet up, known as the clitoral network.
Yep, the clitoris is more than the bean-sized dot that most think it is, it’s a whole structure.
When stimulated, it swells and can cause female ejaculation and even help with achieving a vaginal orgasm. It’s also important to remember that not all women will find satisfaction through G-spot stimulation, and that’s totally OK too.
So, if you have one, where is this elusive thing?
Imagine signalling ‘come here’ with your index finger ... yep – just like that ... by inserting the index finger or a sex toy into the vagina and rubbing towards the stomach with the ‘come here’ motion rather than an in an out motion, you will have a greater chance of locating it.
Regardless of whether you locate it or not, it’s important to know yourself and what you enjoy most, so that you can keep enjoying yourself or help guide your partner.
The best position to stimulate the G-Spot during sex will be unique to the individual but the two most common positions are the cowboy and doggy style.
The cowboy is when you climb on top of your partner and straddle them while they are laying on their back. You have control over rhythm, depth, and the angle of penetration – try moving back and forth rather than up and down.
Doggy-style is when you are on your hands and knees with your partner behind you. You can adjust your angle by leaning on your forearms or shifting your hips.
The most important thing is that you’re satisfied and fully enjoying yourself. Exploring your body and your sexual preferences is the first step towards making sure you have a happy, safe, and pleasurable sex life. After all, everyone deserves to have great sex.