HEY BESTIE: My partner works FIFO and is keen for us to start sexting while he’s away. I’ve never done it before and I’m pretty shy but I want to please him. Can you give some advice on how a beginner like me can go about it? I want him to be impressed!
Relationships and intimacy can be affected by the FIFO lifestyle, so I love the fact that you are keen on keeping the spark alive while both on and off rostered swings.
Sexting can be a lot of fun and, fun fact, ‘sexting’ was a term first published in an Australian publication back in 2005, so it’s been around for a while.
It is a way of flirting and getting to know your partner on a different sexual level. However, when it comes to thinking up what to text, this can become a bit tricky.
Not only is there a lot of pressure to say the “right” thing, but it’s also tough to be the one to kick things off.
It’s important to have an open mindset and a great imagination. The more you allow yourself to let go and enjoy, the hotter your sexting conversation will be.
Sexting is a great opportunity to explore your fantasies and desires and the bonus is that since you are texting, it gives you both a moment to think through your responses and get creative.
Think that you might be into bondage play, but feel a little shy about getting out the handcuffs? Try using emojis and creative words.
So, where to start?
I’ve laid out a few suggestions below to get the ball rolling but it’s best to keep things simple.
Get started by playing a texting game of ‘Never have I ever…’ or even a simple sentence about your day: “Hey babe, I just got back from pilates and I’m about to jump into the shower, want to take your clothes off too?”
Here’s a few more ideas:
I miss your hands on my…..
Last time I orgasmed with you here it was amazing, want to try it again now?
What would you do if you were with me right now? Get creative!
Or get specific and flirty and playfully tease your partner with “Hey there…just wanted to let you know that I touched myself thinking of you last night.” And let the conversation roll from there.
When in doubt, rely on what you’ve physically enjoyed in the past and share your experiences and memories with one another.
A few points to remember: Before you get started, voice any concerns you might have. For example, if there’s a topic that you would prefer to avoid, make it clear before you begin.
Only send sexts that you are comfortable sending and take steps to protect yourself from potential revenge porn by sharing texts only rather than images and videos..keep the mind active, not the eyes. Be yourself.
Decide an appropriate time to start sexting (during the workday while your partner is on a rig is probably not the most ideal time). Take it slow and above all remember to have fun!
After all, everyone deserves to have great sexts.
Your bestie,
Amanda xx