Hey Bestie: I’m a full-time uni student and I’m finding it hard to make ends meet. A friend of mine has a ‘sugar daddy’ that she hooked up with online and she’s encouraging me to find one of my own but I’m not sure. What do you think?
The good news is that you are not the first and you definitely won’t be the last person to consider this as an alternative option available to make ends meet.
So, before we get started on the pros and cons, let’s get clear on what a ‘sugar daddy’ and/or ‘sugar baby’ is.
Both terms refer to a form of dating in which one of the partners, the sugar daddy, financially supports the other partner, the sugar baby.
The financial support typically involves an exchange of gifts, cash and/or vacations that both parties agree to prior to entering into the arrangement.
Before you decide to embark on this lifestyle, make sure that you are clear on the reasons why you are choosing this, what you want out of it and any goals you hope to achieve as well as an exit strategy if you do hit those goals.
Without this level of thought and understanding, you might be disappointed, and the experience may not be as great as you expected. Some of the things to consider and put some thought into include:
The age of the sugar daddy that you are willing to be with – as they are typically older men rather than younger men.
The type of relationship you are interested in – is this purely companionship or will there be sex involved?
The type of personality that you want your sugar daddy to have – gentle, kind, dominant, etc.
The type of financial exchange that you are seeking and for what type of engagements.
How often you are willing to be with your daddy (are you going to be with him 24/7 or do you plan on setting boundaries on specific dates and times).
Will you only have one sugar daddy or multiple?
If you are wondering where to start in this lifestyle, you can find numerous avenues by a simple online search.
My suggestion is to do your due diligence and make sure that the site or company is reputable, that the person is who they say they are, and that the financial commitments can be followed through with.
Be careful as there are plenty of scammers in this area who are ready to take advantage of someone new to this lifestyle.
Regardless of what you choose to do, make sure that you have thoroughly weighed up your personal pros and cons.
If you are making the choice to do this out of financial desperation, be mindful that this state of mind might make you more vulnerable to making poor decisions – hence the need to clearly think things through.
It’s your life, your lifestyle, and your debt. Be careful and be smart, because after all, everyone deserves to make their own choices around their sexual lifestyle.
Your bestie,
Amanda xx
Published January 21, 2022 on https://www.perthnow.com.au/lifestyle/hey-bestie/hey-bestie-im-a-poor-uni-student-should-i-get-a-sugar-daddy--c-5380542