Hey Bestie: I’m so embarrassed! My partner’s mother walked in on us when we were doing the deed and I don’t know how I can face her again. We’ve only been seeing each other for a little while so I really don’t know them well and I’m worried they’ll have a bad impression of me. Help!
Probably high on the list of worst nightmares – I can guarantee you that you aren’t the first person in the world to be caught in the act and you most certainly will not be the last.
If any of us were in a similar situation, I would say the feeling of utter embarrassment is universal on this account!
The words devastated and mortified come to mind when I think back to when someone once walked in on me.
Although this doesn’t make it any less embarrassing, managing how you feel and act around your partner’s mother is now what you need to focus on.
Typically, what occurs through embarrassment is that we keep the feelings and thoughts of embarrassment to ourselves, and the issue becomes larger when they are unspoken in our heads.
If you allow the situation to ruminate in your mind without talking about it, you might end up damaging your relationship, and I’m sure you wouldn’t want that.
Your partner might be in the better position to talk to mum about what occurred … no, not in specific detail, but a simple acknowledgement of what happened.
If you feel comfortable enough, you might even say something along the lines of ‘I’m so embarrassed about the other day’ just to open the lines of communication and make your feelings known.
You might be pleasantly surprised when she confides in you that she too was embarrassed, offer a mutual apology and move forward … a great ice breaker!
More often than not, parents will respond positively to you being open and mature by addressing the situation. This also allows them to know that you respect them and there’s a high probability that they can relate to what has happened.
They too are human and have potentially also been caught in uncomfortable situations.
Take the higher road and acknowledge what’s happened to be able to move forward.
There’s no need to walk on eggshells and feel awkward for what could be numerous upcoming family functions because after all, everyone deserves to have enjoyable relationships and great sex.
Your bestie,
Amanda xx